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How to Be Your Best Self

You, yourself, and chocolate cake.

Discovering who you are is fun. Becoming your best self, necessary. With the baking elements of a dark chocolate cake, we’ll find out just that. When baking, you’ll learn two things are essential: you need the ingredients that provide the structure (eggs, flour) and those that provide the moisture (fat, sugar). However, the ingredients alone won’t turn into a cake just by themselves—we need to stick them in an oven and bake them. The structure of the cake is what holds it together, but the moisture is what makes you want to eat it! How to be your best self is about structure, moisture, and a baking process.

Certainly, the whole process of baking is what enables the ingredients to become a cake. Let’s look at how you can become your best self:

Structure

What do you think provides your structure? Discovering who you are starts when you become aware of your body and how important it really is. Without your body, you would not be alive. To get to know yourself better, start by feeling yourself better. Recognize the physical traits that make you unique and surface what you appreciate about them. What makes you so you? What do you love about yourself? You can discover something valuable! To become aware (and proud) of your body is the first step to discover yourself.

You may neglect seeing yourself because you don’t want to be narcissistic or you just don’t value your body as much as your brain (like most everyone). However, your body deserves recognition. This not-too-comfortable truth is more about self-respect than self-adulation. How can you value something that you don’t appreciate? Just like eggs and flour, the ingredients that provide the cake with its structure, you must also rediscover your ingredients—the traits that make you unique. This is not an ego-boost, this is you.

Moisture

What do you think makes a dark chocolate cake so irresistible? To find out who you are, you must also identify the ingredients that make your life moist and delightful: your preferences, strengths, and personal values. If you believe that you already have a distinctive set of skills and experiences, it will inspire you to pursue the goals that matter most to you. Moisture happens when you align your strengths with what you deeply care about. To find out what you care about ask:

  • What did I do when I was a children?
  • What do I love to do as an adult?
  • Which activities do I value?
  • Which athletes, super heroes, or entrepreneurs inspire me?
  • When do I seem to have the most energy?
  • What kind of work makes me feel fulfilled?

Make a list with two columns: one with a list of things you feel passionate about, like exciting activities that you love to do; and the second column with your set of strengths (think of your achievements). Becoming aware of your own special ingredients is rewarding and beneficial because they can make your life like a cake—irresistibly moist! Make sure to weigh them appropriately, because your strengths are important. This list should reflect what you love to do and what you are capable of. The same can be applied to other domains. For instance, take Elon Musk, founder of SpaceX and Tesla who said, “If you’re trying to create a company, it’s like baking a cake. You have to have all the ingredients in the right proportion.”

Baking

Once you find your ingredients of structure and moisture, what’s next? Becoming the cake! This is where most of us need help. I know I do. Baking is about allowing your ingredients to happen. It’s the process that transforms the ingredients of structure and moisture into the delicious dark chocolate cake. Baking is what helps you grow to become the best version of yourself. It also teaches you that you are enough—with your own set of characteristics that make you invaluable. The key insight is that we don’t let ourselves become the cake. Why not? Because baking is messy. You might be wrong, or you might fail. To bake the cake means that you’re willing to grow by tweaking the ingredients. You stick yourself in the heat and you face the challenges of life.

The baking process can be uncomfortable and at times painful. This might lead you to ask: Is it me who’s inadequate? Not at all. Why did the cake not turn out like I wanted? Because it usually doesn’t. But that’s okay because that means you’ll now be able to improve your structural/moisture ingredients. Then you become a better baker. That’s how you become ever closer to the best version of yourself. What happens between the batter and the cake? Chemistry. Energy is applied and the ingredients get transformed! When you decide to bake, you welcome change. You’re willing to give up a part of your current lifestyle. You undergo change. But you also know that a baker doesn’t bake just once. Mastery is repetition.

We’re all struggling in life. We want to feel like we’re making progress in our life. Growing is not easy, but it’s worthwhile. How to be your best self? Allowing yourself to bake is what makes it all happen: to hold your body with respect, to appreciate your strengths and align them with what you love to do, and to plunge yourself in the uncertainty of baking! What matters to you is worth pursuing. You don’t need permission. How to be your best self starts right now! The world craves more of unique and authentic. A little more mess and less perfection. What do you want to bake? What ingredients do you want to see more of?

Juan F. Diaz

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Håvard Ramstad
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We must not forget that this irresistible cake will taste better with a cup of coffee. This tells me a few things.. This successful strong person ( the cake in this case ) is not perfect and can easily be improved which should be an insight itself for those who think they are less successful in life. Second, It proves even for the strongest among us he will become stronger with someone who thinks alike. And as Hector said.. get together with those who need to bake just like you. 🙂

Juan F. Diaz
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Håvard thanks for the comment! You make excellent points! It’s not only about the cake, we must taste it with a cup of coffee too. We can become a stronger version of ourselves and improve if we tweak the ingredients! Especially, like you said, if we get together with those who need to bake and grow with! 🙂

Hector Rodriguez
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And the baking will often involve getting out of your comfort zone and working on the process, just the way the heat of the oven will bake the delicious cake, the heat of your work will bake the delicious and unique you.
It’s good to remember also that although it is your journey, you don’t have to travel it alone, get together with those who need to bake just like you!
And don’t forget that nothing is good in excess, even work. Always make time to do what you like, playing tennis, watching a movie, camping or perhaps having a nice pint of your favorite beer? A burned cake wont taste well right? 🙂

Juan F. Diaz
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Excellent comments! I agree- we must make time to do what we like. Without that moisture we might end up with a burned cake!

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